I just finished reading “A Place of Yes” by Bethenny Frankel.
I was taking my time with this one, because it has so many great takeaway lessons and I often took lots of notes while reading it.
If you are a Bethenny fan already, I don’t need to explain to you how amazing she is as a woman, a businessperson, a mother, a wife, and now, a writer. She’s got her hands in all the pots, but for all the right reasons, and it works.
In “A Place of Yes,” Frankel shares her secrets as to how she overcame a tough childhood, a rocky adulthood, and even the ins and outs of previous business failures and her persona as the runaway bride.
She breaks the book down into 10 rules to live by, or as she says, 10 rules to living the life you dream:
1. Break the chain. You don’t have to carry baggage from the past; take the good and leave the bad.
2. Find your truth. Listen and do only what’s right for you.
3. Act on it. Don’t wait, don’t sit, don’t put off, just DO.
4. Everything’s your business. Do everything like it’s your job.
5. All roads lead to Rome. Stay focused, work hard, and you’ll end up where you need to.
6. Go for yours. Put yourself first, achieve your goals for you.
7. Separate from the pack. Don’t follow the crown, stand up for your truth.
8. Own it. Even when it’s difficult, admit it, own up to your actions.
9. Come together. Get yourself right first, then connect with others (who deserve you).
10. Celebrate! Drop the worries, and celebrate the good times.
In reading this book, I found I could relate to Frankel and use her rules to help me get over my past and tear through my future with drive and success. Whether dating woes, childhood baggage, or dead-end careers are holding you back, I recommend this book to you!
In fact, it was such an inspiration to me, I knew I had to tell Ms. Frankel herself. Her website, www.bethenny.com, includes a huge forum where she invites her fans to share their stories of "Acting on It." Below is my story:
I want to start off by saying thank you. Thank you for sharing your stories, not only through television, but also through your books, and for being truly you in every part of your life.
As a writer, I always make it a point to email authors when one of their books inspires me, and yours did nothing short of that.
Before reading "A Place of Yes," my life was in transition. I just moved into a new apartment, joined a gym for the first time, and was trying to make career moves. But I was just going through the motions.
I knew 2012 just had to be my year, because if it wasn't, another year was just going to pass me by.
I have always enjoyed watching you on Housewives, and now on Bethenny, and as most of your fans say, it's easy to relate to you.
I knew about your books and your products, both which make me respect you as a businesswoman even more. I wanted to buy myself "A Place of Yes," but I always have money noise and never let myself spend.
But I went for it, and it was more than worth it.
As I mentioned before, I am a full-time editor and a freelance writer. My dream is to make a living from writing novels. But, like most writers without a deadline, the novel gets put off, repeatedly.
And so, I'm acting on it. I'm making everything my business.
My editing job is a real drag. It's a place where individuality isn't praised and creativity is unheard of. I have never fit in.
I do need my job to pay my bills, but after reading "A Place of Yes," I know I can find fulfillment in other parts of my life.
Instead of just going to the gym, I started talking to my trainers and meeting people. Eventually, those same people found out I'm a writer, and started reading my work in a local magazine. Eventually, the owner of the gym approached me about writing articles for the gym's blog.
I wasn't sure if he was serious, so I waited a few days. Pre-Bethenny, I would have just blown it off thinking I couldn't do it. Instead, I thought "why not?" and emailed him with some ideas. In return, I now have a free gym membership and a writing gig I never thought I'd have. And I'm going to keep going for it. It's not just going to be a health and wellness blog, it's going to be The Blog!
In my freelance work at the magazine, I wanted to get the scoop on a program in our city, Dialogue on Race Louisiana—an organization made to discuss modern-day racism in institutions. I initially joined the group to write an article, which I did, but I also found something I'm really passionate about: treating everyone with respect and making sure opportunities are open to people of every culture.
After the story was published, people at my office asked me about it and wanted to know more. I have since taken the "advanced dialogue" and signed up for training to become a Dialogue Facilitator, so I can spread the word of equality.
On top of that, I went out of my comfort zone and did something I always just thought of doing: I submitted a proposal to Louisiana State University's leisure class board, stating that I wanted to teach a class to the community on blogging.
I worked on the syllabus, came up with a schedule, found articles to share, and went through an interview explaining my love for writing and blogging. I got the job, and now will be a teacher in June of this year.
Although Acting on It has provided me with some great immediate rewards, I know the road ahead is long and hard.
In fact, in the midst of all this, I lost some close friends who accused me of being stuck up. They had mistaken my focus and drive for being a snob, and instead of supporting my efforts, they dropped me.
When you are driven and success is on the horizon, there are some people who just don't want to see it happen. But that isn't because you, or I, or we don't deserve it. It's because they haven't found their truth just yet.
And about my novel? I'm making a schedule to write, write, write, and edit. I'm also pitching ideas to nationally-known blogs to get more practice and get myself out there.
I could go on about breaking the chain with my family issues and past relationships, but after reading the book, that's not even where my mind is at now. I'm driven and focused on my career, because accomplishing things is what makes me happy.
So thank you again, Bethenny. The ideas in "A Place of Yes" are doable and inspiring, and best of all, easy to remember. I hope other readers have the same success as I have, so far.
Holly A. Phillips
2012 reading goal: 7/29