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celebratoryTopic: La vie
Over the weekend, I celebrated something I never thought I would celebrate—a close girlfriend NOT getting married. That's right, we had a non-bachelorette party.
Friday, she was supposed to be walking down the aisle with the man she would spend the rest of her life with. However, things went differently, they split up, and she has found herself on a path she probably never pictured.
But as I get older, the more people I meet, and the more relationships I witness, I learn more and more. Marriages, as I knew as a young girl, aren't the same. They don't always last forever. And neither do engagements. Just as a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, they can end. And it's never pretty. Hell, did I ever expect to be celebrating being single after dating someone for nearly three years? No. But I figure, if you can't beat em, join em. And there's no sense in being sad, when you can be happy, right? Right.
I know, I kind of sound like Debbie Downer right now (Wamp! Wamp!), but I do and always try to see the silver lining in these types of events. Because, although it is sad to experience such a loss of innocence, it makes us who we are—and I'm certain we will be ready for the right people, the right relationship, when the time is right.
So Friday night, we ventured out in our best black dresses, ready to party. We had dinner and cocktails (Spa Martini, you and I are bffs forever now) and then started in on the scavenger hunt. This list I created was all for one purpose, to get my single gal pal some digits and free shots. The list included things like—get a guy to show you a magic trick, find a mullet, find a guy with an out-of-state driver's license, get a guy to serenade you, get 10 business cards, etc.
The magic trick was the first thing we crossed off the list, and although the trick was kind of cheap (pick a card, any card), it was funny to find a random guy who found a deck of cards and actually had a trick for us.
Wow! I was shocked that we were able to accomplish most of the things on the list, and a few guys even wrote in some new tasks, such as "Pick a Page" where we randomly selected a shot to take from a bartender's guide. I am convinced we need to create a scavenger hunt for each weekend we go out—it's a guaranteed fun time.
During the process, we hit up nearly all of the bars downtown, telling everyone what we were doing along the way. I don't think I've ever seen that many guys so excited that a group of girls were celebrating NOT getting married! There was a women we ran into at our second stop that had gotten her divorce finalized that day, so needless to say, she was pretty happy for my friend.
Speaking of our second stop, it was there that we partook in a tradition—eating the worm. I think half the bar watched as we took shots of premium tequila, complete with the worm swimming freely in them. Now that worm is in my stomach, probably enjoying my lunch (gross, I know). It was a good experience that I'll always remember! We even got t-shirts to prove it—thanks, Nicole!
After completing nearly all of our tasks (no body shots, nor could we find the penny with our birth year on it) and last call was upon us, we got some rest and spent the weekend relaxing...and celebrating a little more.
Although my friend has made great progress in the dating world, we all have our setbacks, and I think the looming wedding date was one of them. So I hope now that she made it through that day with flying colors, she can move on to something truly better. Tonight, we are celebrating her birthday—it's amazing what can happen when the girls get together!
